Dry Hump

How to dry hump and grind on a pillow till you orgasm

You read that right. While it may certainly sound a bit crazy at first blush, there are actually a lot of benefits to learning how to hump a pillow. Dry humping (also known as “Grinding”) on a pillow is a great way for a woman to understand the different parts of her body. In addition, learning how to hump a pillow is a safer and more controlled method of learning about sex and sexual stimulation.

In this guide, we will be going over a step-by-step tutorial process to the most effective method of grinding on a pillow. We will also go bust some myths and potential hang-ups you may have over dry humping so that, rather than seeing this as something “weird” or “stupid”, you will instead regard it as an incredibly useful tool for understanding your body’s sensations and becoming more sexual skilled when it’s time for “the real thing”.

Before we start going over what to do, however, it’s important that you understand exactly what dry humping actually is.

What is Dry Humping?

Dry humping is the act of rubbing or grinding your genitals against an object without the act of penetration. In many instances, dry humping is done while either fully or partially clothed, actually giving the term its name as there is often no bodily fluids being exchanged between one or both parties.

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When performed alone, dry humping transitions from being a form of foreplay to that of a specific form of masturbation. And while everyone can dry hump alone, it is generally accepted that women gain considerably more pleasure from the experience compared to men.

Debunking the Myths around Dry Humping

As it is often initially performed by younger people during their burgeoning sexuality, there are a few different myths and misconceptions that surround dry humping. Here, we’re going to go over a couple of them as well as explain why they don’t hold up when actually thought about for more than a second.

Myth #1. “Dry Humping is only for Virgin Losers”

Ok, let’s tackle the big one here first and foremost. While certainly there is a subset of people out there that can’t find a guy/girl/significant other to sleep with and use dry humping as a way to find sexual relief, that isn’t all of them. In fact, it’s not even the majority of them.

Before we go on, I want to put a particular level of stress on this point so you understand the reality.

Everyone. Humps. Things.

From teenage virgins, to Mr. Macho man and Mrs. Sexy woman, to pretty much every animal in the animal kingdom, to even babies, everyone humps things. Years upon years of evolutionary science have told us, as a species, that grinding on a person, pillow, chair, or teddy bear just feels good!

In fact (as we’ll discuss later), women actually get the most pleasure and satisfaction from dry humping as it allows their clitoris to feel the perfect amount of stimulation without worrying about overstimulating themselves.

Myth #2. “Dry Humping is a Creepy, Lesser Act that You Should be Ashamed of”

While, at first glance, you may think this and Myth #1 are the same, they are actually a bit different. Whereas Myth #1 is about who engages in grinding, this myth is geared around the act itself.

Speaking specifically about the act of grinding on a person or object for sexual gratification, there is a belief that it’s not something you should be ok with, or that it’s something you should “grow out of” as you get older. The reality of it couldn’t be further from the truth.

For both men as well as women, dry humping is not only a solid form of foreplay or masturbation (depending on the number of people involved), but it is also a great method of more fully exploring your body and its sensations in a safe and judgment-free space.

As with every other activity on the planet, the phrase “practice makes perfect” is just as applicable here. If you don’t know what level of thrusting feels best for you, what angle to grind your clit over for the most stimulation, or what muscles are being worked when actually engaging in a dominant sexual position, how exactly are you going to do well when you are doing the real thing? That’d be like taking a test on trigonometry while only “kind of” knowing what numbers are.

Myth #3. “Dry Humping Can’t Give You STD’s”

Ok, so this myth is more nuanced than it is right or wrong. Yes, in the majority of instances, dry humping should be relatively safe. If you are grinding against a person or object with all of your clothes on, there, ideally, shouldn’t be a problem as your clothes are effectively acting as a barrier.

That said, that doesn’t mean all forms of grinding are STD-free. If your dry humping becomes increasingly less “dry” while with a partner, any potential infections they may have can actually slip through certain fabrics. It’s the same reason why non-latex condoms (such as lambskin) are regarded as ineffective against contracting or spreading an infection.

Dry hump and Grid on a Pillow

Alright, now that we’ve cleared up these myths and you know what dry humping is, let’s go over exactly what you’re going to be doing.

How to Dry Hump a Pillow

While the process for dry humping is fairly straightforward, there are a few differences between how men and women do the deed. Since they generally both have different equipment, how they go about grinding will also vary.

Step 1. Pick the Right Pillow

You can’t really dry hump a pillow without the pillow. This step is actually the most important step in this process. Not only because you need a pillow in general, but because you need to pick one that will be the ideal level of firmness for you.

Ideally, you are going to want a pillow that is a bit harder and firmer than standard options. This is so that you have enough stability when either thrusting into or rubbing over. If you opt for a softer, lighter one instead, you’re likely going to deal with a bouncing effect that won’t give you the resistance or friction required for the most pleasure.

The good news is that, since you are doing this in the comfort and privacy of your own home/room, you can experiment with numerous pillow shapes, sizes, and levels of firmness. This way you can find the one that perfectly works for you and your desired level of pleasure.

Step 2. Stack the Pillows

Next, consider grabbing between two or three pillows and stacking them on one another. By adding more than one to the process, you are actually making it easier to push up or down.

Step 3. Dress to Impress

Now that you’ve picked out your pillows and have them in the right formation, it’s about time to get into the groove of things. To do so, you’re going to want to be as close to naked as possible.

For guys, while you don’t have to be entirely naked, you are going to want to have enough of a separation in your boxers so that you can simulate penetration with your penis. That can mean simply sticking it through the crotch, lowering it just enough below your waist, or going full-on nude.

For women, you have a few additional options, though the sentiment is largely the same. While wearing panties or pants is acceptable, consider wearing as light a fabric as possible or simply not wearing anything. Rubbing the clit freely across the pillow is an amazing feeling that you don’t want to ignore if possible.

Step 4. Picking your Position

When choosing your position, there are a few options available and you can experiment in different ways. Here, we recommend the “Sandwich” technique for guys and the “Taco” technique for women.

The Sandwich Technique

For guys, the most stimulating method is by literally sandwiching the pillow between the two or more pillows. Depending on the firmness of the pillows, this can feel either just “ok” to truly spine-chilling.

The Taco Technique

For women, while there are a few more options than for men, the Taco method is the best. By folding the pillow in half and placing it between your legs, you can grind along its ridge as you ride it to an orgasm. If you decided to get a firmer pillow, it will be much more stable, staying upright for longer even if sitting on top of it. This is key, as a pillow that is not firm enough will collapse its edge, reducing the overall pleasure.

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